You’re Never Too Old To Pay Attention To Who Your Friends Are

Crazy headline from Australia-”Two Friends Shoot Each Other in the Butt to ‘See if it would hurt’”.

The two men had been drinking for several hours when they took turns firing an air rifle at each others’ butts. It hurt but they thought they were fine and went home to sleep it off.

The next day both men had pain other than a severe hangover and were taken to a hospital, where doctors had to remove pellets from their buttocks and thighs. Turns out they were not only stupid but also horrible shots.


These two morons prove our friends lead us to wherever we end up.

For some reason we think we can stop worrying about who our friends are after we become adults. Dr. Jim Rohn disagrees and said:

”You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”


Picture the 5 people you spend the most time with. Got it? Now, do an assessment of their weaknesses. Are they hot-tempered? Are they dishonest? Are they bad with money? Even the weaknesses that are just annoying like they are always late.

Now comes the tough question, which of their weaknesses have your copied? Probably more than you realized.


If I really am the average of the 5 people I spend the most time with, how do I figure out who my 5 people are?

3 Questions to Evaluate the People you Spend Time With

How do I feel after interacting with this person? Am I energized/inspired or drained/confused?

Some people are leeches. They attach themselves and drain you dry. Which is bad enough but the worst part is they then go find another person to latch onto AND complain about how you weren’t there for them.

You want people in your life who inspire you. Who motivate you. Friends cheer us on when we hit bottom and keep us humble when we reach the top.

How does this person respond to criticism? By embracing it and showing gratitude or dismissing it and becoming angry?

Nobody likes criticism but it’s how you become the best version of you. And the best way to learn how to deal with criticism is by watching someone else do it.

Does this person accept responsibility or deflect it?

None of us can succeed until we take personal responsibility. But it’s hard to do. It can be embarrassing. That’s why we need friends to stand by us and give us the strength to do it.

Here’s my favorite story about friends from “The West Wing”.

This guy’s walkin’ down a street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep he can’t get out.

A doctor passes by and the guy shouts up, “Hey you! Can you help me out?” The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole, and moves on.

Then a priest comes along and the guy shouts up, “Father, I’m down in this hole; can you help me out?” The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on.

Then a friend walks by. “Hey, Joe, it’s me. Can ya help me out?” And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, “Are ya stupid? Now we’re both down here.” The friend says, “Yeah, but I’ve been down here before and I know the way out.

That’s what friends do. Who do you have in your life who’ll jump in the hole with you?