Remember when you thought 40 was old and 50 was ancient? But now you’re a man of certain age and the view has changed. You like it. In fact, there are even some good parts to it. Like:
1. You Don’t Always Have to be Right
You’ve discovered true wisdom is knowing what you don’t know. And you’re comfortable with other people knowing you don’t know.
2. You’ve Learned Not to Judge
You’ve screwed up so much in life, you know you have no right to look down your nose at a dude who’s screwed up. But also, because you know it could happen to you again at any moment.
3. You Want Less
One thing about being a man of a certain age is you’ve had so many birthdays, Christmases and anniversaries, you’re starting to get repeat gifts. Which has led to you an amazing discovery. It’s just stuff. It can be replaced. It can’t make you happy. It has to be stored, maintained, insured, cleaned, etc. In other words, stuff just adds more to your to-do list. So you want less.
4. You Have the Confidence to Make Decisions
You’ve made enough bad decisions to know failure is seldom fatal, so now you’re no longer paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong decision.
5. Your Children Become Your Friends
You enjoy hanging out with them. And if you’ve done your job as a dad, they enjoy hanging out with you.
6. You Understand There’s No Point in Telling Anyone What to Do
When you were in your 20’s you said “Here’s what you should do “, when you were in your 30’s you said “Here’s what I did”, now that you’re a man of certain age you say “Here’s a hint, now go figure it out”
7. You Realize Gray Hair is a Reward Not a Curse.
Repeat after me “Yes, I have gray hair and dammit I earned every one of them!” Gray hair shows you’ve survived. Gray hair shows you’re a serious guy others should take seriously.
8. You’ve Figured Out Encouragement Works Way Better Than Criticism.
Every guy may need a kick in the butt occasionally, but he’ll respond better to an arm around his shoulder teaching him what to do or a pat on the back congratulating when he gets it right.
Getting older is great! Embrace it. Enjoy it. Celebrate it.