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An Empty Stomach aka Motivation

Proverbs is probably my favorite book of the bible for lots of reasons. One of them being it’s intensely practical, even 3,000 years after it was written. Like this verse:

“It is good for workers to have an appetite; an empty stomach drives them on.” Proverbs 16:26

Great verse that perfectly explains why we’re having some of the issues we’re having in our country-men have lost the motivation of hunger. We’ve lost the need and ability to eat what we kill.

The basic problem is there are way too many guarantees in a world that was never meant to have any. Most folks think it’s good to have guarantees because it takes the pressure off of men, but the truth is it’s had the opposite effect. Guarantees have had a debilitating effect on men. It’s robbed them of a significant part of their makeup.

The reason is men are designed to hunt, designed to gather, to go out and deal with the pressure of getting food. Men need to have a little weight on their back to keep them on the right path and help them focus. What we’ve got to learn is that you are never doing a man a favor by removing responsibility from him.

Men don’t have to fear living without guaranteed employment and no bid contracts, in fact they should embrace it.   The reason is a man experiences a special sense of satisfaction when he does it on his own instead of having it handed to him.

So, if we want to begin to reverse the trend of living in world lead by boys who can shave, we need to let them go hungry.

Measure Twice, Cut Once

There’s an old saying among carpenters that one of the basics to being a good carpenter is “measure twice, cut once”. Don’t just measure and make the cut but take the time to be sure you’ve got it right. Basically it just means paying attention to what you’re doing, taking pride in doing a good job. But most men live “measure once, cut twice”. There’s less and less attention to detail. More work being produced that doesn’t look like the guy doing it really cared what kind of job he did. You don’t have to be a carpenter to measure twice, cut once. Guys who sit behind a desk have just as many opportunities to get it right.One of the biggest of those opportunities is email. Seriously, does anybody proofread anymore? Here’s an example of an actual email that obviously wasn’t measured twice.

Here’s a few tips on how to measure twice and cut once when you’re writing an email.

1. Use spell-check
2. Check your grammar and punctuation
3. Review your email slowly while looking for errors
4. Keep reviewing an email until it’s error-free
5. Give yourself a brief cooling off period before hitting the send button
6. When replying to an email, verify if you want to reply to the sender or reply to all?
7. When forwarding an email thread, remember to scroll down to ensure that there is nothing in the previous emails that you don’t want the new recipient to see.
8. Be careful forwarding joke emails, not everyone may appreciate your sense of humor.
9. Don’t write your email IN ALL CAPS because the recipient may think you’re SHOUTING AT THEM!
10. A business email account should not be used for personal correspondence, remember emails from a business account are considered official company communications and can be monitored.

One more really important area to measure twice cut once, especially If you’re a young guy just starting out, is your resume. A resume is not supposed to get you a job, it’s supposed to get you an interview and that won’t happen if your resume has mistakes like these:

  • “Finished eighth in my class of ten.”
  • “Received a plague for Salesperson of the Year.”
  • “Reason for leaving last job: maturity leave.”
  • “Failed bar exam with relatively high grades.”
  • “Am a perfectionist and rarely if if ever forget details.”
  • “Instrumental in ruining entire operation for a Midwest chain store.”

The good news is you can just use the email tips to proofread your resume.

There are lots of areas of a man’s life where this applies but the big idea is that part of being a responsible man is paying attention to the details. I have to admit that this is an area where I really struggle. Normally I’m a fire and forget kind of guy but that doesn’t get the job done, so I have to constantly remind myself to measure twice and cut once.

Eat The Frog

A few months ago I went on a guy’s weekend at a friend’s place on the Black Warrior river. It’s a great place with a huge fire pit that 20 guys can easily sit around. (Hmm, hey Brian can I borrow the cabin this weekend? Just kidding). Anyway, one of the main events of the weekend was everybody brought some sort of unusual game to eat, the weekend was called The Beast Feast. We had venison, duck, and something I had never eaten before, frog legs.

Now to say that I’m a picky eater would be an understatement. I’m strictly a meat and potatoes kind of guy. Right now friends of mine are falling in the floor laughing just thinking about my eating habits. So I was not really too excited about the idea of eating frog legs. I thought I was I going to avoid having to try them because I was leaving before they were supposed to be ready. But just as I was going to the car, the guy cooking yelled to me that the first batch was ready. Dang it! Now I would have to try them. I found the ketchup and knew the best way to do it was just go for it. The longer I waited the worse the anticipation was going to be. So I just chomped down on one expecting the worst. I’m telling myself “don’t throw up, don’t hurl” just before taking a bite. The big surprise was I actually didn’t find the frog leg completely revolting, in fact it was kind of good. Just goes to show you that a shoelace would taste good if you deep-fried it. But my point is that I had dreaded the frog legs but it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I had expected.

There’s a really good lesson here: eat the biggest, worst looking frog first. OR develop the habit of identifying the worst thing on your to-do list everyday and tackle it first. You’ll be amazed at how this will improve your productivity and outlook on life. I can tell you from firsthand experience there is a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment on the days when I do eat the frog verses the days that I don’t. There’s an old saying that goes “If the first thing you do each morning is eat a live frog, you can go through the day with the satisfaction of knowing that is probably the worst thing that is going to happen to you all day long!”

There’s another part to this that says “if you have to eat two frogs, eat the ugliest one first”. Or if you have two important tasks, start with the hardest one.” Develop the discipline to attack the biggest , ugliest frog first and then refuse to quit until you finish.

My preference though is to choose the easy stuff first. The stuff that I can knock out quickly, with minimum hassle. The problem is the frog never goes away. He just sits there, staring at you saying “I ain’t going nowhere”. This just adds more stress than if I’ll just attack the frog first.

Maybe the thing to do is come up with a way to highlight your frog. Maybe you circle the frog or put it first in your list or maybe you draw a frog next to the item or maybe you put a big “F” beside it. Whatever you do just make sure you always know what your frog is and attack it first.

Real men eat the frog.